Ch 13 - THE ISSUE OF DEATH ITSELF AND THE LAYERS OF ITS RELEASE

CHAPTER 13
THE ISSUE OF DEATH ITSELF AND THE LAYERS OF ITS RELEASE
How processing these experiences relates to our childhood,
and what affect it has on our lives.


Anything we cannot handle seems overwhelming. When we attach to a certain state of existence, any threat to that state is stressful. The three kinds of things that control us, that none of us can escape, are old age, sickness and death. Regardless of how smart or how good a person we are, these things happen.

Researchers like Elizabeth Kubler Ross have found that people go through psychological stages when they find out they're dying: denial, anger, sorrow and acceptance. In past life therapy, these phases are also experienced as the layers of incompleted past deaths are processed out of our auras through our bodies. We also find that fear is there, too. It usually comes out after the battling and/or anger. When it comes to the real thing, most people do not want to die before their time. I haven't found many words come up about whether it's good or bad 'on the other side.' All the words in dying scenarios seem to be about dying from this life. The emotional experiences people have when they're dying seem to be related to what happened during their lifetime, or how they feel about people they're with. This is what the people around them usually talk about, too.

When a client has completely processed a particular lifetime and its death, all the emotions are gone. Pictures can still be there if the person looks, but the charge is gone. Then we know the plug has been pulled on that piece of the stack.

In reality, we understand that everyone dies, but our minds cling to survival more than anything else. In our limited view, we think this body and these thoughts are all we are. We also sometimes tend to think of ourselves as immortal. So it's enormous and overwhelming to think we will not exist, and in some ways we deny the idea that we will die.

Further, the fear and remorse that occurs when a death is forced upon a fairly young person is quite significant. Many religious people say they feel OK about dying and meeting God. But I have helped a number of clients process out past deaths in which they were Christian monks or nuns, and in those lifetime roles, these monks and nuns had a hard time of about leaving this life, in some parts of their psyche. Some of this processing even included words about God forsaking them. Rarely if ever were words mentioned about what God had in store for them on the other side. There is often a capture involved, and an attempt to elude or resist capture as well. This has proven true for death experiences of young people no matter what their religious involvement. The people in these past lives seem much more interested in their relations with this life and its people and results than in the hereafter. Since we were processing our foundational issue lifetimes, all these deaths were violently caused, either in battle or through imprisonment or torture. And that may be why they are like this. But it explains my point.

In our minds we attach our existence to any ideas of how our lives ought to be. These become a part of who we think we are. And when these kinds of arrangements are threatened, we use all our creativity and effort to keep them from ending. In many situations, this is a very valuable asset. However, in therapy, analyzing the pattern will point toward our issues.

In the lives that were 'foundational' in setting up the pattern, the people always lose.+; they are killed. That's why it's futile to try to intellectually 'beat' your pattern. The pattern will always end in loss. The only way you can beat it is not be involved with it; don't play its game. You have to remove it with therapy or develop a strong enough concentration power to let go of it.

Figuring out how to beat it is actually another part of the episode that's coming out of the person's old tapes. Trying to beat it in this present lifetime is transference; the person is transferring the old pattern onto a current object. The circumstances are different; the theme is the same. You can move to another location, or change you job, or get a divorce. But if these changes are just avoidance actions, the issue will pop up in the new circumstances, too. Astrologers can read this from a chart very easily.

Netherton therapy is such a great tool because it has techniques to remove the incompleted experiences that keep perpetuating the threat of loss, the attempt to throw off the threat, and then the final death blow.

Even in non-abusive and non-combative situations there are some circumstances, such as our own death or the death of loved ones, which are unavoidable. So we have great sadness over these losses. We also may have anger or frustration, as for instance, when we're unable to stop someone from dying of a disease. This can also appear in the form of guilt: "I should have done more. If only I had done such and such. I shouldn't have been so selfish." And then there will be remorse: "I'd give anything to get that back again, so I can do it right this time." Amazing as it may seem, all these are other people's words in prenatal and at birth, and our own words and those of others in our past lives.

Some people also have denial, if they ignore the whole situation because they can't deal with it emotionally. Sometimes there is confusion, too.

All these feelings and thoughts are sincere. But it's important to remember for therapy purposes that the way we deal with other people's deaths is how we have been conditioned in the past. Just like learning how to use a tool a certain way, we learn to handle different experiences in our lives in certain ways. We just don't remember that learning experience.

When the emotional trauma and conflicting voices of these old experiences are processed out, we feel freer and less confused. For each pertinent scenario in the stack, we release the "fighting" trauma of anger and denial that's been existing in our bodies as deep tension. We release the black hardness surrounding our hearts, the tight fear deep in our guts, and the sorrow stuck our chests. Finally, the energies of love, forgiveness and acceptance come out and we relax deeply as our spirits leave the flesh during complete processing. After a session, even if it's a childhood one, many people say, "I feel like I released a lot out of me."

A similar pattern exists as we process through prenatal, birth and childhood. We are able to make contact with the love, acceptance and understanding that underlies the problems we're usually caught up in. And we gain a lot of empathy toward our parents, having just lived through their emotions and experiences. With the needs of a child no longer driving our attitudes, we see them as real people as well as our parents. And most people can see that the parents did love them even though their outward behaviors might not have shown it. My clients can better appreciate the difficulties their parents went through even though it was also tough on them. This is because they are no longer stuck only in the place of having the tough time. They can see deeper.

The result carries over into our daily life. When the old negative emotions are literally removed from our bodies, this forgiveness so many people talk about becomes a reality. When they are not processed out, people have a hard time being in the present as they are told to do in the forgiveness procedures. Underneath are still the old energies moving around by themselves and they affect what we think, say and do. In a manner of speaking, some of this includes the denial of what else is going on, and that can create problems for ourselves and especially for other people. The error of the forgiveness system lies in its believing that all these negative feelings are part of our own conscious adult minds. In reality, they are elements of the old painful experiences themselves. When these words are processed out, we don't have them in our minds. Then our thoughts, speech and actions will be more accurately in line with our current reality.

The process of releasing emotional trauma in any therapy has therefore been called "riding the rapids." When we get through all that "body energy" that comes out as we process, our minds have the calm and clarity to see more of the whole picture, like seeing deeply into that calm pool of water at the bottom of the rapids.