Ch 16 - SURVIVAL, ABUSE AND HOPELESSNESS - PART 3,Hopelessness

CHAPTER 16
SURVIVAL, ABUSE AND HOPELESSNESS - PART 3
Hopelessness

I've mentioned that 'the words connect our adult life issues to unfinished experiences that happened in our childhoods, in infancy, and even to our births and the prenatal. And I've also said that these same 'words' are the link to similar kinds of experiences in our past lives. Let me explain this in more detail.

Here is an example:

Someone who always thinks, "There's no one who listens to me," and, "It's hopeless to try, so I won't even bother," may have died while imprisoned behind a wall, where no one could actually hear him or her. That's a 'forced' situation. Other lifetimes occur where people do hear us and we are saved. Or there are lifetimes where we choose aloneness rather than die or suffer severe emotional or physical pain. And all of these patterns make up the stack that we struggle against when we want to be free of our limitations.

The stack has to be unraveled, in general, from more recent times to the distant past. But often our unconscious mind goes to key past lives before going to birth or childhood.

Not all past experiences need to be processed. Many people will have experiences of natural disasters come up. But my understanding is that these are not original patterning lives. And the key episodes to remove are the ones that 'set it up.' In all cases, people have come up with instances where they were directly limited, abused and killed by others, against their will. Just as if they were in infancy, people are controlled beyond their physical powers to resist. My understanding of the natural disaster episodes is that the energy of the embedded pattern attracts us into the same kinds of things done to us by nature. The embedded pattern always seems to be initiated by a controlling, abusive person against whom we fight and for that we are killed. Usually, there are at least a few of these that need clearing.

Since my work has dealt primarily with people's relationships to other people, these human initiated circumstances are the source material. Fighting back not only became hopeless, the abuser even said the words, and that's how we got them to 'adopt.' Sometimes, others even said the hopeless words in sad retrospect over our graves. In the natural disaster lifetimes, who we were often said the hopeless words. But again, this appears to be subsequent to the original 'human forced pattern.'

The point of the therapy is to erase all the programming experiences in your unconscious mind that make you think that doing something in this lifetime is hopeless. Releasing the 'human forced pattern' of life and death, in both past lives and infancy almost always makes releasing childhood and teenage episodes much easier and more effective for the person.

This pattern of abuse always seems to be at the bottom of all issues. The abuser initiates the victimization. The victim resists. The ante is raised with more threats and abuse, and the victim resists further. Finally, the abuser, being much stronger or having many others to help, kills the victim.

An episode like this often appears in infancy as well. Although the person doing the processing obviously wasn't killed, he or she may have been knocked unconscious. It seems that even when people never remember being hit, in some cases, even good mothers lost control with their infants. Naturally, a good mother will never do it again and will even have great feelings of guilt and remorse. In fact, she always seems to be overworked and in many cases, is feeling frustrated with father.

All these thoughts and feelings went into the baby. Then, as an adult, the person has guilt feelings mixed in with the anger, fear and blockage. Another successful change that happens for people when they do this processing is that they unravel these kinds of patterns, seeing who said and felt what, and when. It has a very good affect on the personality by broadening and deepening the person's maturity, compassion and understanding.

Here is a simple example showing the past scenarios' relationship to one's present issues. In the example I gave about not being heard, physical walls may have blocked him. Or someone was holding her mouth shut or closed him or her away in a place where no one could hear. The victimizer would also say, "No one can hear you." This is a command put into the unconscious mind. In natural disasters, no one was within earshot.

In infancy, when the child cried for help, no one heard him.
These are typical past experiences of a person coming for therapy who may have had parents who "never have heard them," and some of the key early childhood and teenage experiences would be worked along with the birth and past lives. In the prenatal, one parent may feel the same way about the other. Or the mother may feel it about her mother. At birth, the delivery nurse may be thinking the same thing about the doctor.

When scenarios like this are "processed off" the person's inner self, he or she behaves less like those other people. In addition, the person is less drawn into relationships with people who "play the other part."


REASONS FOR PHYSICAL PAIN


Generally speaking, there are two similar patterns of physical pain. One is a karmic relation to a person's physical illness. The other is a relation to repeated injury of a specific type or a specific part of the body.

The simplest kinds of linking to understand are when you had something done to you in past lives that gets metabolically created in this life.

Headaches are a good example of this kind of physical pain linked to past experiences. Definitely, toxic digestive conditions and infections can cause headaches. Headaches during extreme emotional pressure are also caused by real behavior in the present. But what causes all of that behavior? The scenario for pain with emotions seems to have been set up when we were forced to experience the pain and had the emotional experience at the same time. Then, when we now have the emotional experience, the physical one re-occurs; and often, vice versa. The physical processes of the human body take care of the mechanics
In actuality, the past even was comprised of both physical and emotional experiences happening at the same time.

In one of my own scenarios I was under extreme emotional pressure while my head was being injured during torture. As a spy, I wouldn't sacrifice my family to save myself. Loyalty to others versus freedom for myself has been an issue for me. I had migraine headaches when I pushed myself in a "should" while my own body and motions were yearning for an "I want." Then, at this birth, my head was squeezed in the birth canal while my mother and those around her were dealing with the same kinds of issues. Until I had eliminated down to these layers, I had migraine headaches all my life. Since the release, I may have similar emotional pressures and food allergy reactions, but I rarely get the accompanying migraine. I also don't eat the food that causes them.

It is important to say that clearing the past physical issues is not sufficient to clear the person's current problem. It needs direct physical intervention of a medical or health type. It also needs a clearing of the psychological issues that cause the person to have the problem.

Another kind of headache pain is a bit more subtle. If a person has a block to expressing certain kinds of feelings, they can have headaches. Expressing oneself is located in what is called the fifth chakra, located at the neck, and shoulder area, and into the mouth and part of the nose. It also includes the lower back of the head. We speak with our mouths and do things with our hands and arms. When a person has anger that comes up and does not express it, a headache can result from the energy jamming up the tissues and vertebrae at the back of the neck where it joins the head. These people are not aware that the emotion is in there.

Here is a very good example. I had a client who had had a lot of body
work and done some processing. He also had been meditating for a few years and was a pretty nice person. This man also had had a long term back problem that was significantly better even though he had to see the chiropractor for neck adjustments periodically. One day, we released his chest and abdomen much deeper than before and continued processing old material. This bodywork release allowed much deeper feelings that had been held down to surface. The person also was in a job that brought up a lot of anger and dissatisfaction, and the boss acted a lot like the man's mother did when he was a child. So daily events could trigger old material that had not yet been released. He called the next day after the session complaining about a very bad headache that had thrown his neck vertebrae out again, and we both were aware that he had a lot of anger directed toward me. This anger was blaming me for doing something physically that threw the neck out. But he was aware enough to know something else was going on. He also had fear and did not want to do any more processing.

Here is what was going on. The old scenario we'd been working on was only partly completed. This happens regularly; major deep ones could take from four to eight hours to get it all. The anger of that trauma had come up and gotten stuck at the back of his neck because he did not yet have a clear channel for letting it out in a safe, acknowledging environment. This old anger was probably triggered by the events at work because the man felt quite good both physically and emotionally at the end of our session. Indeed, he was angry at his boss and frustrated in his work situation. But the large amount of energy from the old material jammed in the structure when he was unable to let it out. We did a lot of bodywork to clear all this jamming and to further release the head. And we combined it with a lot of caring, soft music and guided relaxation. Then we moved to logical adult to adult conversation and 'became friends again.' Then, his trauma was gone, he'd been cared about, and his frightened inner part opened up to process the words of the scenario which came out in a very calm and easy way.

What made releasing the old material actual 'fun' for him was the way we role modeled him into a very strong, stand-up-for-yourself person. Previously, all of it was him being on the short end of the stick, so to speak. We had finally reached below the tightness in his body that had locked his self-esteem under all the repression. I call it punching a hole into the barrier. In this case, it was a very large opening.

The physical component of pain is, by far, the very major cause. I myself once had a migraine that was food oriented. I had appropriate deep bodywork to release the physical manifestation. Then I discovered a subtler involvement which points out that pain is, indeed, a wholistic issue. Immediately after the bodywork the pain went away and I then also became aware of some anger I had had toward some people a day before. I also felt inwardly satisfied that the bodyworker had listened to me and did what I told him to do to clear it up. After some 'battling,' I had gotten someone to listen to me and acknowledge me. This standing up for what I believe in, for acknowledging my own path has been a lifelong issue that I am only now understanding. So the pattern has been there. I have become much more aware of it through much recent trauma, a lot of previous Netherton processing, and a lot of spiritual work. So when an astrologer explained the issue to me, I could hear it and understand it much more fully than before.

Migraines are related to liver and colon problems. The liver stores anger and the colon is associated with our nervous system. They are both organs whose function is to clean the body of unwanted material and recycle what we do want. Angry feelings are a subtle energy kind of thing we don't want.

Some people call this 'body-symbology.' I think it is more accurate to say it is wholistically oriented. In Traditional Chinese Medicine they describe the body as having twelve organ 'systems,' which include some of our actual organs, some energy flows in the body, certain other physical functions and our emotional makeup. Each system is thus involved with both physical and emotional conditions. And as I have been explaining, trauma always includes emotional as well as physical experience.

Abdominal pain is another common issue. It can have a background of stabbings, bullet wounds, poisonings and lots of mother's pain at birth. Abdominal issues can be perpetuated by improper eating. Emotional emptiness is widely recognized as a cause for eating, and eating and eating. Life not being sweet brings up an urge for sweet foods. Stress will also do it as stress is directly linked to the pancreas. I have found that mother's stress in dealing with us as babies could have led her quite naturally to eat something. And when we have the same kind of issue, we gravitate toward the same thing. And it is usually carbohydrate because that satisfies the physiological part of us that is linked to the emotion in the limbic nervous system. So we can perpetuate diabetes or candidiasis simply because we eat improperly when we have anxieties.

The same is true in alcoholism. I have read that a potassium mineral deficiency in alcoholics generates the craving for alcohol. Giving them potassium handles the physical imbalance. But when anxiety again comes up, the old patterns pull the person back toward drink. Because we understand the way we get these patterns from our parents, it is not surprising that some alcoholics have one or both alcoholic parents. Conversely, some people with alcoholic parents do not, and refuse to, go to drink during anxiety.

There is a subtlety involved with the psychological pattern. Sometimes the behavior is family oriented, and one person, the responsible one, drinks to drown his feelings of not knowing what to do for others, or with others. Coffee and cake, and other eating patterns can also be used in this way. That is why O.A., Overeaters Anonymous was formed along the lines of Alcoholics Anonymous.